Jealousy affects every marriage in one way or another and can either be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy jealousy seeks to safeguard the marriage from forces both external and internal which can affect the total success of the marriage while an unhealthy jealousy brings dissatisfaction and eventual destruction into the marriage.
It is the responsibility of the couple to identity the signs of jealousy in their spouses early in the relationship by spotting certain behaviors right from the beginning as jealousy cannot be concealed for long. There are several traits and behaviors which can be exhibited by a persistent jealous spouse all in the bid to either be in control of the marriage or to create a hostile atmosphere within in the home.
Quicky commitment
A jealous man will tell you to choose between him and your male childhood friend who you still spend quality time with even though he pretends to understand and strongly believe it will affect your relationship with him.
A jealous woman will become more persistent and persuasive if you cannot make up your mind to propose to her, even though you may have a good reason for holding back.
Living in the past
A jealous man will be more interested in listening to details of your past relationships and become judgmental by comparing them to the present relationship with him.
A jealous partner will randomly bring up the name of your past girlfriend during arguments to back her manipulations and threats when she feels insecure.
Doubts amongst friends
A jealous husband feels uncomfortable when you are talking or hanging out with your friends and work colleagues especially the single ones.
A jealous wife often feels insecure when you try to make conversations with other woman especially if they are more attractive than her.
Anxious in the workplace
A jealous husband thinks every man in your office has a crush on you and tells you how much he loves you by texts several times during working hours so you don’t forget… Nice, isn’t it?
A jealous wife will offer to pick you up after work every day to remind your colleagues that you are happily married.
Resent family ties
A jealous husband intentionally makes himself absent from your family gatherings because he believes they recognise his weaknesses.
A jealous wife acts jealously when your siblings come to the house for the usual sibling drinking practice because her family doesn’t have such a privilege.
Enemy of progress
A jealous man complains that you spend too much time focusing on your career and less on your marriage even when you balance both well.
A jealous wife complains that you work too hard and will discourage and accuse you of putting your job before the family if you take up better opportunities within your organisation. She is always quick to forget that the job pays the bills too.
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